At the risk of being inflammatory that could have read just out of the ukip playbook! I am pretty a-political btw just thought it read funny.
You might think of yourself as "a-political" but you don't come across that way- I'm sure you don't realise this, but that's still the impression you give.
Hippy areas are just as judgemental- just they judge different things. For example, someone "dressed as a tory" might not get a very good reception as they would be judged by their clothing......
There's a massive gulf between local people looking out for each other and wanting to keep crime out and the negative "xenophobic" thing you intimate. It's not a fine line at all.
Nor is it a "rural white" thing either- rather it's something that happens if an "outsider" visits any close community. When I was at uni, my best mate (Parents from Indian subcontinent, observant Muslim) not only invited me to her wedding, but also took me around the relevant areas in London in the run-up to it when selecting her wedding jewelry and ooutfits. As we went around, she educated me on the customs and expectations as she did so, even to the level of the different styles of jewelry favoured by different religious groups and the latest fashions in
shalwar kameez, the latter was the subject of much discussion as I was haing an outfit made up for the wedding. When we went into some specialist wedding shops, she had to explain in Bengali that I was a "friend" before the initial frost towards me thawed. I'd no issue with that, it was a close community where everyone looked out for each other- and some of the goods in the shops we were visiting were very valuable, and I stood out as very "different" to the usual customer.
Perhaps it's best not to confuse standard human rudeness with politics/tribalism. "Rude" does not equal tory, ukip, xenophobic or any other term relating to a group you seem to disfavour. Rude is just rude, and there's rude and nasty people in all political and cultural groups.
Much less stressful if you dissociate "rude" from "tribe" or "politics," that way different tribes can politely debate and disagree with each other on some issues yet still remain friends, and there's no need to label someone as a particular tribe/political persuasion from the way they come across on your first meeting, for all you know that lady you talk about could in fact have been a very "progressive champagne socialist" in her political views, yet just have been rude!
But then, I'm old enoug to remember and lament the passing of an era when people with different views could gather and discuss/debate in a civilised and respectful fashion yet still remain friends.
GC