Losing friends.

[firecrest]

I lost a very dear friend yesterday. If ever I had known I would be burying my childhood friend at the age of 26, I would never have let the years lapse by with only the occasional email and `how do you do` on the bus or in the street.
God forbid that anybody should suffer what she did - an entire year in hospital with a fatal illness and countless infections - MRSA, C Deficile, Phneumonia. I don't know how our hospitals have gotten in the state they have, but she seemed to have suffered more from hospital infections than she did from her illness itself, which has remained unexplained.
There isnt any reason for me making a thread out of this, other than the fact that Im very upset about it, and that I felt I learned a very hard lesson to whats valuable in life when I went to see her in hospital for the last time. Good friends are truly hard to come by and I can name all mine on one hand.

 

[The Cumbrian]

Firecrest,

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

Death is hard enough to understand or bear when it's someone who's lived a long and productive life, but when a friend dies in the flush of youth it must be much harder to take.

All the best to you and your friend's friends,

Michael.

 

[Bodge]

sorry about your friend firecrest.
I have nothing more to add really apart from agreeing with your thoughts.

Bodge

 

[SimonM]

Truly sorry for your loss.

Simon

 

[jojo]

So sorry to hear this, Firecrest. It is so sad when someone you care for dies, but also that the places which are supposed to help us when we are ill, made things far worse for your friend and her family.

 

[ANDYRAF]

Good friends are truly hard to come by and I can name all mine on one hand.

I truly feel for you Firecrest, I too lost someone close not so long ago. I can only say that if you look to the people on this forum you will find more friends, good friends than you realise.

Andy

 

[John Fenna]

I am sorry to here of your loss.
I too have lost friends too early and know it can be hard.
I found that it does make one think how important friendship is, and to enjoy the company of the friends that are still around even more.
My thoughts are with you.

 

[firecrest]

Thanks guys. Everybody suffers losses like this at some point in their lives. Ive just been very frustrated about all the hospital bugs she picked up, they shouldnt be there, in some countries they have drastically reduced the occurance of them through simple methods, like employing cleaning staff that actually care, not agency people who are not trained and will not be working in the hospital for more than a week or so. I think her disease was fatal anyway, she had reoccuring tumours on her spine, but it wasnt cancer, they didnt seem to have given it a name, but it was the hospital bugs that put her on life support three times.

 

[Wayland]

Nothing I can add except my sympathy.

As said, it's always hard but seems worse when it's so early and seems so pointless.

I lost a friend who was just 19 and had a sudden heart attack one boxing day morning some years ago.

Never put off til tomorrow what you can do today...........

 

[Wayland]

Thanks guys. Everybody suffers losses like this at some point in their lives. Ive just been very frustrated about all the hospital bugs she picked up, they shouldnt be there, in some countries they have drastically reduced the occurance of them through simple methods, like employing cleaning staff that actually care, not agency people who are not trained and will not be working in the hospital for more than a week or so. I think her disease was fatal anyway, she had reoccuring tumours on her spine, but it wasnt cancer, they didnt seem to have given it a name, but it was the hospital bugs that put her on life support three times.

A lot has to do with the public's insistence that antibiotics should be prescribed for every little cough and sniffle.

The doctors don't have time to argue and often give in for a quiet life.

 

[Mesquite]

My sympathies to you and your friends family Firecrest.

As for the hospitals and various bugs I know exactly what you mean because I suffered from them as well, exactly the same as your friend, but I was extremely lucky to pull through. There isn't any excuse at all for these things happening in this day and age but sadly they do and will continue whilst meeting budgets takes precedence over patients health and care.

 

[NatG]

Loosing close firneds is just mind numbingly painful, i really feel for you.

 

[alpha_centaur]

Sorry to hear about your loss.

 

[Minotaur]

Sorry for your loss.

To quote Tim McGraw "Life like you were dying", we all to often think we have loads of time, but none of us know how much time is left on the clock.

We are suing a hospital over bugs, my future father in law, was basically murdered. They took out four people on the same day, and that is only the people who died. We both are pro-NHS, but this one hosiptal is undefendable. This is so simple to stop as well, just keep the hospitals clean, we have know this since 1854.

 

[Aragorn]

sorry for your loss firecrest

 

[ANDYRAF]

When my wife was ill in '06 she was taken into Derriford Hospital in Plymouth, the talk at the time was that some of the Lord high pill rollers wanted the reinstatement of the post of Matron, not as a paperwork exercise but to take back the reins of cleanliness gestapo that they were known for. At the time I thought that if it works they should do it.

 

[y0dsa]

Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.

It's a tough lesson to learn.

Sympathies.

 

[firecrest]

Thanks for your kind comments people Its nice to know people care.

 

[woodstock]

[. Good friends are truly hard to come by and I can name all mine on one hand.[/QUOTE]

Sorry to hear about your loss ... but you are blessed when you can measure your true freinds on one hand, as true friends are very rare

 

[firecrest]

[. Good friends are truly hard to come by and I can name all mine on one hand.

Sorry to hear about your loss ... but you are blessed when you can measure your true freinds on one hand, as true friends are very rare[/QUOTE]

Its true. a relationship of trust where you learn you can rely on someone in times of need and watch them grow as a person takes a long time to build. I was saddened when Emma was in hospital and said that so many of her friends and even some of her family had not visited.
I felt the same way in another situation, when you need help there are alot of people who actively avoid you because they find grief awkward.