At family gatherings we sit 18 folk - from me down to seven month old granddaughter.
I always use a spork - Christmas, Birthdays and every day but it’s not quite within the OP as, while I would only I use one type in stainless steel, it wouldn’t matter whether it’s an old one or recent purchase.
My wife always uses a setting from the first set we ever owned together - a wedding present. The (grown up) children all choose cutlery that they used as children. In-laws and grandchildren are tolerant and choose. All the cutlery is in one drawer - knives of all sorts, forks of all sorts etc
Wife has a cupboard full of mugs to choose from but there are day mugs and bed time mugs.
I have four mugs but I made them all myself. I don’t take them out with me. I have a couple of KK mugs and a Xylis but they are all replaceable.