Thanks for the reply and the explanation!
However, I still can't quite grasp why these comments should be construed as insulting or as putting someone down - for me it is a quite rational and factbased reply.
If a person feels "put down" or insulted because he happens to read a couple of words he cannot fully grasp, then I would suggest that the fault is with the person feeling such and not with the knowledgable person.
And I still can't understand why there is anything wrong in factually stating that you are quite good at something.
Indeed, one should cherish the moments where one happen to meet a more knowledgeable person than oneself - this gives a moment of opportunity for continually learning and expanding ones knowledgebase and skills.
//Kim Horsevad
PS: I actually learnt a new word from you post. I am Danish and my accuaintance with the english language is mostly from reading research litterature - as such the term "rubbernecking" was new for me. Google is a powerful friend indeed!
Kia Ora Kim,
The 'problem' is were not dealing with a face to face conversation at a BBQ or over a few beers where body language, tone of voice and a whole host of other factors come into play. It's hard written words on a computer screen. While the words and percieved tone might be acceptable to some to others the tone is percieved differently.
Then there is a cutural factor as you say you're Danish and English is not your first Language so with the deepest respect it may be you're missing the tone that is obvious if you're British. Assuming I could read and speak Danish if I went on a Danish forum I would probably miss a lot of the tone and implied intent within written conversations as Culturally I'm not Danish. I'd miss something and make a Ar#e of myself or get someones back up etc....
While there is nothing wrong at all with being good at something, Maths, Bushcraft, Mensa Tests, Airfix Models etc ... Culturally the British are traditionally modest often to the point of self depreciation. It's generally acceptable to be lauded by your peers as good at something... Ie Johnboy is really good at Airfix models you should talk to him. etc
If I however state in a conversation.. "Look I'm in the top 1% of all Airfix model builders in the world so my statements have more relavence in this conversation on the 15 part Spitfire kit realeased in 1952". I might be considered a bit brash and immodest. More so if that statement is being used to belittle someone else.
As someone said on this forum a while ago when an Immodest statement was made 'Take a modesty pill immediately!!" That made me laugh. But it's a good summation of how folks can feel.
Cheers
John
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