Get a form (this could easily just be your knee protected with a towel) ready, put a pot of water on the cooker, arrange the bow so that the portion you want to bend is suspended over the pot, cover the pot and limb with tinfoil, leave it for around an hour (helps if you do this when your wife/parents are out) then quickly remove it from the steamer and carefully put the limb in the form and bend it.
Use a smooth but firm pressure when bending the wood, dont rush it (too much).
Also bend it further than what you want (it usually springs back a little on cooling) and hold it there until cool (sometimes you have to leave it overnight).
Also if you dont fancy steam you can use a dry heat from a heat gun/open fire BUT YOU MUST PROTECT the wood, usually with a coat of grease, oil, etc to avoid scortching.
An alternative to bending the bow tips into recurves is to carve some NON- BENDING Recurves and glue them on, this is more complex as the glue joint has to be perfect and preperation is everything here or the recurves will tear off when the bow is drawn.
If your really serious about bowmaking I'd advise you to gte the Bowyers Bibles series of books all this and a LOT more is covered in depth.
Andy