John Seymours Forgotten Household Crafts is a great start. Jennifer Davies The Victorian Kitchen based on the BBC series of that name is good if biased towards the country house type of Kitchen. A personal favourite of mine is The Kitchen Catalogue from the Castle Museum Yorks who have a extensive collection.
Most of the county guides on regional cooking and country lifeare heavily biased towards the Victorian period, Stuff by Peter Brears or Marie Hartley are full of info on kitchens and food. Lots of rural life books have at least a chapter on kitchens like J Geraint Jenkins Life and Tradition in Rural Wales. Traditional Food East and West of the Pennines has some good bits. Good illustrations.
One thing I've learned is that although there was loads of shiny new stuff coming out all the time in the 19th C there was also a lot of continuation especially the further you got from London and cities in general and the further you got down the economic pile and into the countryside.
Not sure whats available as PDF online or weather the libraries are going to open soon for inter library loans, assuming they dont have any of those Ive mentioned in stock.
ATB
Tom