I am Pretending I am Allright...

[Janne]

Archivist /librarian (?) with a post grad in Archeology.
Sounds to me like you might need to be prepared to relocate for a job.
It is not bad, I would say it is very good. Done it all my life, including moving country.

I know nothing about your base qualification, but even if you do not ‘pass’ the post grad, it should still be valuable for you, on your CV.
Shows you have the interest and willingness to learn.

My own post grad studies, and further education, were in three areas, never led to a specialization, but I have had huge use of them anyway. More than a specialization, to be frank.

 

[Wander]

Tengu, do you have anyone near to you that can give you the support you need?
Looking at your recent posts, you are clearly going through a very difficult time. What no one wants is for things to get more difficult for you.

Please forgive me if I speak out of turn, but I am sure in the past you have referred to having mental health and/or personality disorders. I can't quite put my finger on what it is you have mentioned.
So I (and I am sure others here) are concerned that this may antagonise matters and lead you on a downward spiral.
I can see why posting here may help - supportive words and all that - but I get the impression that actual, meaningful, support is what you need to prevent matters getting out of hand.
Have you ever received any kind of support from social services before? (forgive me if I have got it all wrong)
Are you registered with any kind of service?
I get the strong impression that what you may need is support from specialist services rather than disembodied voices on the internet.

My sincerest apologies if I have your personal situation all wrong and have made wrong assumptions. I am just concerned, based on your recent posting, that matters are getting out of hand and you are struggling to cope with them, and think you need appropriate help.

Best of luck.

 

[Tengu]

No, it is fine to ask these things; thank you for your concern.

I have in class support, and social support. Others in the company are looking out for me. I used to have a Psycologist but havent seen him in some time now. Still in contact though.

My GP knows I have stress. (My mental health is actualy very good apart from that)

 

[Nice65]

Thats what I want to do, Petrochemicals, but I need an archivist to understand the nuances

Career wise, I doubt theres one, as most folk wont take on someone like me. I love being a student though

As Sunndog says then, your course is just a hobby, something you enjoy. Most of your posts are about the hardship in your life, you need to be pulling a bit of cash in from somewhere. Many of us are here on BCUK because we enjoy the outdoor life, like to go out camping, walking, sneaky wild camping, knives, tents, clothing etc, etc. Thiat’s is a hobby, being a student isn’t. It’s very shortsighted of you to think you can exist as a student forever. What is learning all the coursework gaining you? Do you plan to pass the knowledge to others as it’s been passed to you? Use it to better yourself financially? Or just keep enjoying the process while living what appears to be a bit of a miserable life?

The folks here go out of their way to help you along, but it’s not the answer. Getting yourself to even a part-time job locally, however boring or unsuitable, would be a very positive step forwards. You’ll engage with people more, you’ll have a bit of routine, you’ll have a bit of extra cash, you’ll feel better and more confident about things.

 

[Van-Wild]

'...your PAST does not define you. What you do NOW defines you.....'

Not my words, but they definately resonate with me. Or as Rocky once said 'it's not about how hard you can hit, it's about how you can get hit and keep moving forward'...

Sorry, not sorry if this sounds a little harsh, but there's a lot of people on here trying to help you, saying a kind word here or there, some even offering help, but the truth is; it's all on you. I've followed your posts and it appears that things haven't been going your way, in one way or another for some time. You openly admit to having some issues, but that really isn't the point is it? The point IS that you're clearly not happy with what has happened in the past and in the present and that you're searching for a solution. Well...... you're the solution. There's not a soul on this earth that hasn't suffered hardship, suffered physically or mentally in one way or another at some point in their life. But you know what? They pick themselves up, dust off and move on to the next chapter. Tengu, you need to close the door on your past and build your future. Doing something, anything, is way better that simply accepting your lot and doing nothing about it.

You like being a student? Look where thats gotten you.... Have a word with yourself. Seek professional help if you need to. But do it now! Take that step towards a better life and I absolutely promise you that you will feel better. Sure, mega bucks won't instantly roll in, that job/rolex/whatever you dream of won't suddenly appear but it will happen, in good time and with a lot of effort from YOU. People will only help you if it's clear that you're willing to help yourself mate.

To end with another quote.....

'The longest journey starts with one small step....'

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[santaman2000]

Tengu I’ve been reading your posts for years as well. I always get the sense you’re a highly intelligent person with more than just a bit of stress. Of course I only know you through our online exchanges and in any case I’m not qualified to make any clinical diagnoses.

That said, my own daughter is in the process of applying for a disability pension based on anxiety (or at least mainly based on the anxiety) I watched her working part time jobs and raising her (then) only son while she toiled away to get her bachelor’s degree. She only succeeded because she had me to help by giving her and her son a place to live while she studied and took on massive student loans. She’s had that degree for some years now and it’s certainly helped her get jobs; however none of them ever lasted long enough to become a career or make any dent in that debt due to her physical ailments (chrohns and celiac flare ups prevent her from keeping any strict work schedule) and depression and anxiety set in.

My best advice is to talk to your doctor (a qualified professional) and see if your problems rise to a level that might qualify for a pension under UK protocols. If! And I realize it’s a big if; if your system is similar to ours (and if either you or my daughter or approved) a recipient here is allowed to still work to some limited extent without forfeiting the disability so it doesn’t necessarily mean being sidelined for life so it doesn’t have to be a choice between useful work or financial assistance.

 

[Janne]

Maybe not so helpful what I am writing now, but I think ANY job is good for the human being.
Stacking shelves? Cleaning up old people in a nursing home? Picking fruit and veg summertime? be a petrol station help?
Mundane yes, but one huge benefit is that you keep busy, feel and is , useful, brings in cash and most of all gives you contact with other people!

What is the minimum wage in Uk these days? UKP 8? 40 hours a week = 320/week

Or am I wrong?

 

[Tengu]

Its nigh on impossible to get a job if you are Autistic.

What do you think I have been doing this past thirty years?

I make a joke of it...but its a real problem.

 

[Janne]

Keep searching. You will be successful.
I have a couple of friends that are Autistic, and some more with children that are. It is a struggle for them.

Unfortunately, our Society is turning to only accept a workforce of young, ultra qualified, childless people.

 

[Corso]

Some of the finest minds I've worked with and learned from have been on the autism spectrum

 

[Van-Wild]

Some of the finest minds I've worked with and learned from have been on the autism spectrum

I actually worked with a guy who is autistic. He was a computer wizard. He single handedly changed the way training was delivered and got an MBE......

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[Corso]

Keep searching. You will be successful.
I have a couple of friends that are Autistic, and some more with children that are. It is a struggle for them.

Unfortunately, our Society is turning to only accept a workforce of young, ultra qualified, childless people.

Not in the UK they want us to work until we drop - I fully expect the pension age to be 80 within a decade

I actually worked with a guy who is autistic. He was a computer wizard. He single handedly changed the way training was delivered and got an MBE......

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Science/Medicine is a common field where the attributes can be a big plus

 

[Fadcode]

Maybe not so helpful what I am writing now, but I think ANY job is good for the human being.
Stacking shelves? Cleaning up old people in a nursing home? Picking fruit and veg summertime? be a petrol station help?
Mundane yes, but one huge benefit is that you keep busy, feel and is , useful, brings in cash and most of all gives you contact with other people!

What is the minimum wage in Uk these days? UKP 8? 40 hours a week = 320/week

Or am I wrong?

From April 2020, all workers aged 25 and over are legally entitled to at least £8.72 per hour.

Other lower rates depends on age

Current rates are as follows:

• For those aged 25 and over, the hourly rate is £8.21 (now known as the National Living Wage)
• For those aged between 21 and 24, the hourly rate is £7.70
• For those aged between 18 and 20, the hourly rate is £6.15
• For those aged under 18, the hourly rate is £4.35
• For apprentices aged between 16 and 18 (or those aged over nineteen, who are in their first year), the hourly rate will be £3.90.

 

[Janne]

Maybe on the research level, not with patients.

Yes, they want you to work until the week before you go to Valhalla.
Retirement age in Sweden is now 65 or 67. In UK? Same?

 

[Fadcode]

The retirement age here is going up gradually to 68 at the moment, this was caused by equality claims, so they changed the Law so that you could not be discriminated by age,and basically done away with compulsory retirement, except for a few exceptions, Armed Forces, Police, Firefighters, et al.
This allowed people who wanted to continue to work after the normal retirement age could do so, a lot of our Mp's and House of Lords members, Judges, etc are well above the normal retirement age, No I am not saying they were not impartial when changing the Law,
Even if you continue to work after the normal retirement age you still receive your state pension, and a lot of pensioners have to stay working because of the low pension.

 

[Corso]

Maybe on the research level, not with patients.

I presume this is meant at me?

If it is I REALY wish you would put in your experience in your reply mine is very different...

 

[santaman2000]

Its nigh on impossible to get a job if you are Autistic.

What do you think I have been doing this past thirty years?

I make a joke of it...but its a real problem.

Hence my advice to ask your dr if it rises to the level of qualifying for a disability pension (or the UK equivalent)

 

[sunndog]

Its nigh on impossible to get a job if you are Autistic.

What do you think I have been doing this past thirty years?

I make a joke of it...but its a real problem.

How many dozens of job applications are you basing that on?

I spent ten years working in factories and believe me less capable folks than you get jobs. The stories I could tell are near unbelievable and all these people sat for an interview.
Jobs are out there if you have the will to look and work

 

[Nice65]

How many dozens of job applications are you basing that on?

I spent ten years working in factories and believe me less capable folks than you get jobs. The stories I could tell are near unbelievable and all these people sat for an interview.
Jobs are out there if you have the will to look and work

And the attitude. You sounded a lot different 2 years ago almost to the day. Where’s the positive, professional Tengu?

https://bushcraftuk.com/community/index.php?threads/the-professional-tengu.148256/

 

[sunndog]

And the attitude. You sounded a lot different 2 years ago almost to the day. Where’s the positive, professional Tengu?

https://bushcraftuk.com/community/index.php?threads/the-professional-tengu.148256/

Agreed on both points mate. I remember that thread now I've read it again too