ETC News... those two are very strange... they're like marmite. I lost myself for a couple of hours on that channel once... and it brightened my day to find them. I don't 'follow' anyone, but I do drop in that channel when the mood takes.
Best Cure for A Broken Heart?
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ETC News... those two are very strange... they're like marmite. I lost myself for a couple of hours on that channel once... and it brightened my day to find them. I don't 'follow' anyone, but I do drop in that channel when the mood takes.
Guys - if there EVER was a thread for sharing this sort of thing - its here. Feel free. No objections here.
I've recently came to the conclusion everyone would benefit from Therapy - be that professional and formal on friendly and informal.
I broke it off with my previous gf.Apparently , not so nice , I've waited on purpose to see what peoples responses would be.
Its me who is doing the heart breaking.....
Finding it difficult to deal with with falling out of love with someone.
So, does that change how people respond? My heart is still where it is. Maybe too touchy-feely for a family bushcraft forum but everyone seems to have experience of this I find it hard to believe that I'm the only one to fall out of love and have difficulty dealing with it.
Over to you guys , fire away.... ( try and respect the honesty however please )
She was obviously devistated but i knew that it was the right thing to do for both of us.
Still knocked me sideways for a couple months.
I believe that she is engaged now, just shows that time and luck are the only cures...
As for myself, I shall be alternating between moping, keeping myself busy, and being at work.
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mrmike I've just seen you're in Hexham, I grew up in Prudhoe and went to School in Hexham. I'm coming back for a week and should be going out camping with Mick from this forum the week after next (14th-16th). You should get the days off work and join us mate. Might be good for you.
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Wassall this then? Secret camps? I reckon you're just prepping for the Shiny Woods experience... sounds like that is going to be a camp and a half!
Well he's only over in Sunderland and I was going camping anyway so I said I'd pick him up if he wanted to come. You're only down the road Dewi, if I wasn't spending time with my mother beforehand I'd have offered you a lift up to the north east to join us!
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Cheers for the offer wacker but im a little short on hols, should be at wooplaw at the end of the month though...
Might have moved to darkest otterburn too, need to change that!
(Sorry for thread deviation )
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Might have moved to darkest otterburn too, need to change that!
(Sorry for thread deviation )
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Kinda turns us into americans but without the right to bear arms though?
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Kinda turns us into americans but without the right to bear arms though?
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Hmmm , Honestly I USED to think like that , Stiff lipped British reserve and of that but I've changed my view. Yours may never or it may next week - just never know. So never say never.
I've referred myself to counselling services on two occasions in my life and must say it's not what you think, not even close.
I've found it immensely helpful and was very surprised the first time I went. They just help you vent and organise your thoughts, it's not like you see in the films with the leather couch and that haha
I will always recommend it if you ever feel really stuck or self destructive but it's not for everyone. You don't know until you've tried though so I wouldn't dismiss it as American nonsense.
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I've found it immensely helpful and was very surprised the first time I went. They just help you vent and organise your thoughts, it's not like you see in the films with the leather couch and that haha
I will always recommend it if you ever feel really stuck or self destructive but it's not for everyone. You don't know until you've tried though so I wouldn't dismiss it as American nonsense.
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I refer to the great Crocodile Dundee... talk to your mates!
If you haven't got mates, make some. There are more than 7 billion people on this planet... odds on bet there is at least one or two who won't think you're an insufferable bore or an idiot... least thats my philosophy.
I did have a therapist after a nasty episode with a brain tumour and memory loss... she was a nice enough woman, but she didn't really have a clue what she was on about. My best therapy was a brew with a mate of mine who had suffered a major head trauma... he knew first hand what I was going through and rather than offer sympathy or advice, he shared a brew with me every morning at 6am for months. His company was enough to set me on the right path.
If you haven't got mates, make some. There are more than 7 billion people on this planet... odds on bet there is at least one or two who won't think you're an insufferable bore or an idiot... least thats my philosophy.
I did have a therapist after a nasty episode with a brain tumour and memory loss... she was a nice enough woman, but she didn't really have a clue what she was on about. My best therapy was a brew with a mate of mine who had suffered a major head trauma... he knew first hand what I was going through and rather than offer sympathy or advice, he shared a brew with me every morning at 6am for months. His company was enough to set me on the right path.
Would never say never, I did a level 1 counselling course when I was at uni, it does come in handy sometimes.
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Brilliant. I'm glad you found that support when you needed it Dewi. And you're right even the most intolerable people I know still have friends!
Just on a side note if you go to therapy and they offer you sympathy or advice, you're in the wrong place. Sounds like you had a terrible therapist mate.
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Hmmm, not sure if I'm honest ( someone tell me to shut up when i'm being too open ! ) , I've got too much empathy . Hence the conflict.
That makes sense to me but I'm not sure if anyone will 'get' it. Not that I claim a monopoly.
Its just a super suck situation. I hate every moment of it.
Oh she didn't offer sympathy or advice... she offered me a listening ear which led to a direction of conversation which was entirely irrelevant. I had emotional amnesia... I wasn't broken, I just didn't understand emotion. Had she explained to me the basic of each emotion, that would have been more helpful than a delve into where I'd come from and where I was going.
I'll be fair to the therapists and the counselors, they have their place and I'm sure they're a help to some, but not everything is based on where you've come from and not everything needs exploring.
I will add something I've been keeping schtum about... I always thought I was destined to be alone. I convinced myself I'd never see 40. I never felt comfortable in a relationship and I never felt like a real father to my first son. Turns out I'm 40 now... I hadn't met the right person back then, and I now feel like a decent bloke with great kids and given the chance, our family would exist quite merrily just living each day as it comes and enjoying what life has to offer.
I'll be fair to the therapists and the counselors, they have their place and I'm sure they're a help to some, but not everything is based on where you've come from and not everything needs exploring.
I will add something I've been keeping schtum about... I always thought I was destined to be alone. I convinced myself I'd never see 40. I never felt comfortable in a relationship and I never felt like a real father to my first son. Turns out I'm 40 now... I hadn't met the right person back then, and I now feel like a decent bloke with great kids and given the chance, our family would exist quite merrily just living each day as it comes and enjoying what life has to offer.
Sorry to act like a stuck record but... don't be hard on yourself, you have your reasons.
And your empathy, your caring... does it change the outcome of your decision?
Good question. I don't think it will change it ( although it did for a bit which I now see was wrong ) , just makes it painful.
Funnily enough , after all the dust has settled , I'd like to remain friends with enough time. But not sure if thats possible.
