Where abouts are you located Tengu? I realise the job's in Scotland but where do you need the clear out help?
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I hope the job in Scotland is enough to be worth all this upheaval. Tourism is not always a reliable income here.
Seasonality rules, to be honest.
I hope your health improves very quickly, Tengu, that things go well
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Seasonality rules, to be honest.
I hope your health improves very quickly, Tengu, that things go well
M
Car boot sales are a psychological godsend. Had to semi clear a house in Cornwall and the sheer waste of throwing stuff away genuinely upset me. Don't get me started on the inane profligacy of buying tonnes of guff she never needed.
Anyway, boxed it all up, hit about 8 different car boots, donated to some lovely clubs for a space but ultimately it was the selling of gear for peanuts to people who were delighted to find it and had a use or need. Made me feel much happier and the few quid translated into fun money we made ourselves spend only on fun things.
Anyway, boxed it all up, hit about 8 different car boots, donated to some lovely clubs for a space but ultimately it was the selling of gear for peanuts to people who were delighted to find it and had a use or need. Made me feel much happier and the few quid translated into fun money we made ourselves spend only on fun things.
I would if I could but between doing my own move and being very busy in work, I am flat out for at least another month. Getting tired now too.
A tip I will share tho: SMALLER boxes. I am not physically strong enough to lift a large full box. This is my preferred box size: 47cm x 31cm x 25cm. Probably half the size of a standard moving box- but I can lift it, repeatedly. More smaller boxes vs fewer larger ones.
And if its books then it won't be filled, only filled to a point I can lift it.
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A tip I will share tho: SMALLER boxes. I am not physically strong enough to lift a large full box. This is my preferred box size: 47cm x 31cm x 25cm. Probably half the size of a standard moving box- but I can lift it, repeatedly. More smaller boxes vs fewer larger ones.
And if its books then it won't be filled, only filled to a point I can lift it.
GC
I am sorry I'm not nearer by to be able to help with the sorting Tengu. If you have the opportunity to head to Scotland to what sounds like a wonderful job, then the hassle of this stage may well be worth it in the long run.
Can you take time ? Draw a breath for a season or two ?
I suspect that it's just been somewhat overwhelming, and time to heal, time to think and be methodical about clearing your feet, rather than feeling hassled and harried to be done on other peoples timetables, would be a good thing.
If things work out as you hoped, then you'll have an easier time selling the house and your move can go ahead with so much less stress.
If they don't, then you'll still have cleared enough space that you reclaim your house and find renewed enthusiasm maybe to find work nearby.
You know now the kind of work you have enjoyed, that has opened up the world for you, given you friendships and a huge sense of accomplishment
Glastonbury lake village is about sixty miles or so from you, is there nothing of interest for you near there ?
Then don't. If you're incapable of doing it by yourself, you shouldn't be doing it to begin with.
Take stock. What can you do, what can't you do? If you can't afford to pay someone to do the heavy lifting... how can you afford to move at all?
Are you getting a little ahead of yourself? A flight of fancy? Unrealistic goals based on idealistic desire?
I used to work there when it was roundhouse, I've heard it's changed a lot, and the roundhouses are gone, and a saxon house has been built instead. I never got paid for working there, it was all voluntary. Not sure what's going on there nowadays, but one never heard much about it anymore. Nowhere to stay nearby, and doubt they do the living history stuff weekends any more. It was only 2 weekends a month, when I was there.Can you take time ? Draw a breath for a season or two ?
I suspect that it's just been somewhat overwhelming, and time to heal, time to think and be methodical about clearing your feet, rather than feeling hassled and harried to be done on other peoples timetables, would be a good thing.
If things work out as you hoped, then you'll have an easier time selling the house and your move can go ahead with so much less stress.
If they don't, then you'll still have cleared enough space that you reclaim your house and find renewed enthusiasm maybe to find work nearby.
You know now the kind of work you have enjoyed, that has opened up the world for you, given you friendships and a huge sense of accomplishment
Glastonbury lake village is about sixty miles or so from you, is there nothing of interest for you near there ?
Tengu, why don't you put the house sale on hold for a year. Do your stuff up in Scotland this summer, then pick up again next autumn, spend the winter clearing the rest at your leasure, and put it back on the market next spring.
The country is unstable atm, I feel it might be wise to just wait and take your time. Another season at the crannog centre will give you more time to get embedded there, and become a more settled member of staff aswell. You can concentrate on that, and worry about the house later.
It's a big life change you are contemplating. It's bound to be stressful, better to take a bit more time over it rather than rush it through and find your health compromised, and then not be able to work. You don't want it to go pear shaped. I admire your tenacity, but perhaps you just need to step back a bit, and slow down, the centre will still be there next year, and you won't have flogged yourself half to death.
Be a tortoise, rather than a hare. You'll get there all the same, and when the time is right.
Sorry, half asleep when I wrote this, dozing off, and suddenly woke up, and realised..... I worked at the peat moors centre, which is totaly different to the lake village, which is not like the crannog centre, its just an area where it was found by Bullied...(.I think that was his name. )
There isn't much there now. No crannog, or round house reconstruction. No work at the lake village. Just sign boards!
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It's obvious what Tengu means HillBill, no need to be quite so antagonistic.
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Its changed a lot since I visited about 10 years ago. Nice to see they have completed their villa.
I second that advice.
The place we're renovating has taken 2.5 years. That's given us the chance to "get used" to the whole thing about moving. Moving is a highly stressful event, especially when you've been in a place long time. (We also spent a year looking before buying the place we got. So that's a 3.5 year lead in).
Our aim was to move once to a place where we could see out our days. The experience of searching (and we were looking at 2 or 3 places every weekend) that told us what we didn't want as well as informing what we did want. Our initial thoughts were refined and changed during that process, at least in part because our budget and wider commitments created limits on what was practically viable. In turn, having spent that time, moving now feels comfortable not a leap into worrying territory- and it is planned and methodical albeit still hard work.
Don't underestimate the emotions of it all either.
I often think that moving house is presented as one of life's routines and perhaps for some people it is. But for some of us, it's a massive deal, and so need a longer run into it.
@Tengu : where do you want to be (life and location) in 5 years time, in 10 years time? What do you value?
[Back to box packing. I had a 12-hour round trip to London for work meetings tho yesterday, so I am having a slow start this morning]
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I read somewhere, years ago, that moving house was considered the second most stressful thing we do in life; the most stressful being acrimonious divorce apparently.
Clearing and selling my Dad’s house, moving him across the country and managing his acrimonious divorce on his behalf, just after moving house myself, was a triple whammy bonus. Do not recommend. Unless one wants to acquire all of one’s grey hairs at once.
