I'm a housewife
mostly, these days
I have a lot of wooden boards, platters, bowls, spoons and spatulas. Many have been made for me by family and friends, and I use them. I use them every day in life. Utensils are scrubbed under running water, and yes, I do use detergent. In the past folks just used washing soda or salt.
I don't 'ever' oil any of them.
I don't feel they need it.
The ends of spatulas, spurtles and spoons slowly soften and round over the years. The platters bleach slightly and become paler. Cutting boards are scrubbed under running water, wiped dry and set aside to air off properly. I don't use a cutting board for meat, but in my Mother and Grandmother's houses they scrubbed those boards with salt and washed them as I do.
Bowls are generally used for fruits or breads, and they just wipe out, occasionally given a good wash.
None of them are cracked or split.
Bread troughs of the past were not even scrubbed out, they were just used again and again. I've used some that were over a hundred years old and they still beat any modern bowl hands down
I have family pieces still in daily use that were made eighty years ago. My favourite rolling pin is made of sycamore. It was made over eighty years ago, it's still perfectly sound. Same with the big bread board.
Things like these have a life and wear and ageing is part of that.
I do use polish on the other woods in my home, a homemade mixture of real turpentine (a vastly different stuff from 'turps') beeswax and a little essential oil, usually orange.
If the piece is well made, with a crisp hand cut finish, it doesn't need the oiling. The sanded ones soften a bit more quickly, but if the timber is sound, they become 'right' too.
Oiling just comes out in the food anyway. I know the 'food safe' oils are supposedly edible, I also know that mineral oil is a pretty good way to skitter your insides though.
So for wooden utensils, etc., I'd say, use it, keep it clean, dry it well, unless it's just for show, and then you might as well use good polish or varnish it.
M