Thanks for trying to things back on track....
The advice that's out there about the modern diet is confusing and can be quite confusing. Health professionals still get it wrong when advising patients. A lot of health related advice online is for the masses and not tailored to the individual.
Any changes to an individuals diet or lifestyle should be done under the guidance of a proper specific professional. If you have issues with your diet or need advice on your diet go see a registered dietitian, not a GP. They're called 'general practitioners' for a reason and they should be sign posting you to the professional that specialises in your individual issue!
With regards to carbs (again, back to the OPs original post), I listed the questions because answering them will go a good way to sorting out the issue.
I don't consciously eat refined sugar. (I know I can't totally avoid it unless I go full cave man) but I do my best to eliminate refined sugar from my diet. Sure, I'll have a cheeky sugary something every now and then as a treat, but it's not a regular in my diet. I've actually become rather sensitive to refined sugar now. So much so, I get the immediate (false) energy rush then the crash after makes me feel very drowsy.
I don't eat as many carbs stated as 'the recommended amount' in general literature. I eat much less and I'm still healthy. I'm very active in my job, and I work out 4 or 5 times a week. As
@SaraR says, most people consume too many carbohydrates in their diet.
I'm not a health professional but all my knowledge comes from specific health professionals as I am bit of a geek when it comes to my physical health.
I went for an over 40s health check a few weeks ago and was informed by the GP that I was 'at the top of the BMI recommended for my height and weight and could do with losing a few pounds'.......