I've several under my belt now.
For a 3/4 length UQ for 3 season use in the UK, you want around 2" /50mm of loft. Thats around 7oz of 850 fill down. For a pillow, the down can be varying qualities with varying amounts of feathers in it. Feathers will always poke through so I reckon its worth buying from a reputable maker. 850 fill power standard size pillow have around 500g of down in them, its a good guide to know what quality the filling is. If its says 900g of high fill power down and not a firm pillow, its not that good quality down(could well be chicken feathers!).
I don't recomend sewing through, its actually harder to do neatly and will lower the performance of the quilt. Sewing the baffles is time consuming but easy and makes construction easier.
As Res says, go to HF. They have everything you need. The baffles, sizing and quantity of down are straightforward. The bit that I'd say to pay special attention to is the darting and diffential sizing of the top and bottom layers-its a headache if you've not done it before. Its alot of work making an UQ and the shaping is by far the most important aspect for getting it snugged up properly. Get this right and you will be proud
IME, parachute nylon is downproof but not featherproof. You will get feathers poking through, even using Pertex 4.
One more thing; use 10mm as a seam allowance for everything, nothing less. Any less than this and the seams will eventually open up, spilling downy goodness and warmth. Cutting the fabric with a hot-knife of soldering iron will double ensure the inegrity of your seams.
To harvest the down, erect a tent in the house and do it in there with a dust mask to stop your wife burying you under the patio. Having a vacuum cleaner on standby with an old pair of tights over the tube will collect any stray floaty bits that make it out of the tent(it will)
If you need any help, don't hesitate to PM me.