Loner

[Shambling Shaman]

Its been said that I could make friends in an empty room.
I am a social person. But I do like being on my own in the woods.
So to go in to the wood with others for a social is great - Im social and in the place I love the most.
The point to this thread is at wot point do people think you are antisocial when you wander off to be a lone?
Its happend I say "Nothings wrong just want to be alone" thay say "Has some one upset you" ---- then you are in the "no Im ok" "are you shore" spiral AND not alone!

 

[falling rain]

Its been said that I could make friends in an empty room.
I am a social person. But I do like being on my own in the woods.
So to go in to the wood with others for a social is great - Im social and in the place I love the most.
The point to this thread is at wot point do people think you are antisocial when you wander off to be a lone?
Its happend I say "Nothings wrong just want to be alone" thay say "Has some one upset you" ---- then you are in the "no Im ok" "are you shore" spiral AND not alone!

Who cares what other people think. Do what you feel like doing.

 

[Shambling Shaman]

I dont want to upset any one - but I dont care,
If you just wander off - people follow to ask
If you tell people your ok and not to follow, some one will follow just to make shore?
WHY ... Its nice that people care, I under stand that but what would be the thing to say to stop people following?

 

[Abbe Osram]

Sure you are not antisocial at the moment as you still care what people think about you. They will call you antisocial when you dont care anymore what they think about you.The point is that you will never know that moment, you would be in the woods, and they will have forgotten you. Now, comes the moment! What do you think about yourself in the woods. Antisocial or not, where and what is Life? Maybe you run back, to the folks, then surly you are not antisocial. Maybe you stay in the woods not needing anyone, yes, your are antisocial at that moment, but you will not know, you will not have the question anymore.

cheers
Abbe

 

[Mantic]

Well I'd say that's the difference between being alone and being lonely.

When you head off into the woods and leave your friends behind, you're alone. But if you came back, and you had no friends, well, that would be lonely....

I enjoy company on hikes and camp-outs but then I also enjoy going by myself too - sometimes you can't beat going at your own pace.

 

[Nemisis]

Tell them your badger watching and crowds scare them away simple.
Dave.

 

[bothyman]

Get a Dog then everybody knows that you are just out walking the Dog.
Had this discussion with someone a few weeks back if you are on you own people think you are weird or something.
But if you are out with a dog most people accept what you are doing and will say hello.
I've been doing it for years.
Ok people think I'm weird, but at least they know the dog is just taking me out for a walk.

MickT

 

[Eric_Methven]

The best way is to be up front and honest. When you want to be alone, just make an anouncement that you need to have some personal time out on your own. The majority will respect that and leave you be.

If you wander off without saying anything, of course people will ask if everything's OK, mainly because you are part of a gathering and they care for the group of which you are part. Pre-empt them by telling them a period of solitude is what you deliberately intend undertaking.

Eric

 

[Shambling Shaman]

Good replys - I do have a dog but he hates the hammock and will not sleep with out Dad (rescue dogs have issues) I do like the Badger idea

 

[Nemisis]

A good lie regardless the reason needs a strong element of truth to make it more believable. Badgers fit your need well nocternal, very shy and secretive. Watching them requires solitude in the majority of cases. http://www.badger.org.uk/questions/badger-watching-tips.pdf
Dave.

 

[gregorach]

Get yourself a pennywhistle, and say you want to go and practice. People will quite happily stay away from you when you're first learning an instrument.