dean2,
I've copied some text from a post I made a while ago that might help you.. its aimed at use of a firesteel and the technique I use, and find successful more often than not.
Arrange everything to suit the task, have your left palm facing forward with thumb to the left - it feels unnatural to begin with but I've found it works most times.
Hold the firesteel in your left hand, top of the steel grasped in little finger. The back of your index finger lightly holds the tinder in place and braces the tip of the firesteel. Then your thumb is the digit that pushes the striker down the steel, with the right hand controling the force that the two are being pushed together. With a slow, controlled action you get big fat sparks that fizzle and crackle for several seconds as oposed to one bright flash and its all over.
The situation that you want to avoid is;-
1, scattering your tinder as you strike the spark, and,
2, worse - smothering the sparks that you've just made by covering them with a large cold piece of iron!
If you want a read through the entire thread,
http://www.bushcraftuk.com/community/showthread.php?t=13749&highlight=maple
Hope this helps
Ogri the trog