Ill let you into a secret.
Its possible to have a happy and productive life without pursuing relationships.
Its possible to have a happy and productive life without pursuing relationships.
Then again, I was listening to the dramatisation of Jude the Obscure on Radio four recently and replaying a few less fortunate relationships of my own.Ill let you into a secret.
Its possible to have a happy and productive life without pursuing relationships.
I'm aspergers mate send me a message if you wanna chat it's a very personal hell for me but it's not all bad far from it some people think we lack empathy but we don't we find it harder to express but we're very thoughtfull empathetic people insideI have recently been diagnosed by my GP, after seeing typical symptoms on the NHS website, as being on the Autism spectrum. I have, according to my research what I believe to be what used to been known as Asperger's. I have to wait around 18 months for any sort of assessment due to long waiting lists.
The diagnosis makes so much sense about how I have been and felt all of my life. Unfortunately it has cost me two marriages and it's looking like a third is also going to end.
Has anyone else been diagnosed? It would be interesting to hear your experiences?
I can hear electricity depending on building and Bats echolocation squeaks that's uncanny I'm aspergersSorry for the essay! It's an area I'm kind of passionate and annoyed at the lack of services so I go on a bit too much.
ASD was on a BBC documentary bac few years ago. They assessed a random set of volunteers and found the ASD to be higher. Plus the research it was based on showed that ASD has super powers as much as lowered function. People who go through the day but just want to get home, have a shower or but bath and be alone. Well that's often am ASD based crisis where everyday life has overwhelmed you.
With ASD some have heightened abilities. For example some can hear electricity!! Others can find utility pipes like they've got an extra sense. Then there's the ability to hyper focus. There's a Canadian tech company who has expanded from Canada to be a global player in debugging code. Their success is due in no small part to employing mostly people with ASD and other disorders. Apparently people with ASD who are still functional often have great abilities to concentrate and focus on line after like of code. They can keep going longer without breaks and have fewer missed errors or mistakes. As in something like 90% accuracy compared to 60% fit neurotypicals (NTs).
I for one would love to hear back from you after your referral. It that's not too personal and private. You have been open in here and people are supportive I think. I think how you get on could give me the kick up the 'arris I need to act myself. It's not good someone with two degrees is approaching 50 on not much more than minimum wage. That's where my problems got me. Issues like these really affects you deep into your life and what matters. Good luck in your journey and don't ever give up like I did!!
well saidIll let you into a secret.
Its possible to have a happy and productive life without pursuing relationships.
Im.aspie very personal he'll my hobbies and lifting weights keep me saneYep, professionally diagnosed, not with Aspergers but was termed HFA (high functioning autism) by a specialist back in 2010 as the result of a higher education programme, for that is another route to diagnosis for universities are keen to discover and aid. To say yes there are some distinct positives in being diagnosed in that it can aid one's self forgiveness for a self perceived life's failure, but there are some dangers to the diagnosis I've found ;
a) In a new found interest in the subject of autism, one might take to learning more about it, to perhaps seek to connect with others out on the web, to in discussion of experiences through a need to fit in, potentially take on things that aren't really yours to take, to if you can recognise them erode coping mechanism you have through your life developed.
b) Be very careful who you tell for there are a lot of bullies out there, intentional and not, for any can take to the web, to find the popular picture, the stereotype to there apply their understanding of that popular picture to you , to even when they can't see what they have read seek to deny your experience and difficulty and in some cases even use the knowledge as a tool of oppression through telling you, you do not know what you're thinking because you have a ' cognitive disorder '
c) It's true, there is no help for late diagnosed adult autism on the NHS, for one to just be expected to suck it up and cope with what could be ailing through the understanding, to be diagnosed as an adult one has clearly coped to get that far to not be in need of aid and besides to offer treatment to adults would erode the belief that adulthood cures childhood autism for invariably diagnosed children lose their support at the age of eighteen, to in my mind be in a worse position than the late diagnosed that may have been forced to develop coping strategies to navigate living and working.
Though in my case a diagnosis of autism enabled a lot of understanding and self forgiveness, it wasn't the end of it, for what came two years later was a diagnosis of an intersex condition of which just happens to feature a well known comorbidity with high functioning autism. For that condition to at least have a medical treatment paradigm of which I do have to say from experience does knock the edges off the autism. The only problem with the direction I took in that paradigm is that it has rendered me more or less a public enemy for my appearance. An experience I find autism actually aids with in that I am already well schooled in the art of societal camouflage and the avoidance of situations likely to cause difficulty.
Well since I have been on this forum I have been impressed by your craft. When I was younger, long before I was diagnosed, I read all about the life and works of William Morris as he was a man after my heart. I remember meeting one of his biographers in Sheffield, who described him as possibly having Tourretes so that makes him neurodivergent brethren. FWIW no less than Sacha Baron Cohen's cousin has suggested I have Tourretes as well as Autism. I have often decribed myself as Autistic before the took the R out that is to say Artistic, get it?I have for many years thought that I am wired differently to most people, quite possibly relatively high on the spectrum.
Personally I have always embraced those differences and made them work for me.
That does not mean that I don't find certain situations stressful but it does mean I try to engineer my life in a way that minimises those situations.
I've never sought a diagnoses because I am not sure how such a diagnoses would alter the way I run my life and I am somewhat adverse to change and disruption.
I believe that my work and craft actually benefit from an attention to detail which probably arises directly from the way I am wired so I look upon it as an advantage rather than a disadvantage.
Not sure if any of that is useful but just offering a slightly different perspective.
not myself,but through family and work-then when you talk to people generally it is amazing how prevalent such things are. Are you aware that there are support services out there-NHS,social services,charities etc( although probably less these days)I have recently been diagnosed by my GP, after seeing typical symptoms on the NHS website, as being on the Autism spectrum. I have, according to my research what I believe to be what used to been known as Asperger's. I have to wait around 18 months for any sort of assessment due to long waiting lists.
The diagnosis makes so much sense about how I have been and felt all of my life. Unfortunately it has cost me two marriages and it's looking like a third is also going to end.
Has anyone else been diagnosed? It would be interesting to hear your experiences?