Just never forget that your own, local, aid agencies still and always need your help.
That's a good comment and sums up my situation and feelings. Were I there in the quake or hurricane areas, my help would be immediate and hands on. No disrespect to you Janne, but I'm not a fan of forums being used as fundraisers, it creates an obligation to donate and guilt for not doing so. I'll drop coins in the Macmillan and local hospice money boxes because I have a connection to both of them, but I shouldn't feel bad about not contributing to the relief efforts.
One of my dogs is fairly ill, and it's not looking good for her. Do I shoot the dog and put the vets fees towards the relief? I can't. So, yes, charity does begin here because I'm seeing her deteriorate in front of my eyes and will make things as good as I can for my old friend.
Oldtimer, your opinion makes a great deal of sense now, it's well explained. But the crux of the situation is a personal involvement, like mine with Macmillan, and yours with your eldest son. These personal involvements bring understanding, and empathy for the service provided by the hard working people who run and organise the charities.