Recent content by Wander

Nope, not me. Sorry. I am capable of seeing, thinking, and feeling, with compassion and accept that society has moved on considerably over thousands of years and my expectations of others has moved on as well. But I accept that prehistoric society may be a role model for yourself and an excuse...

Because we are no longer cavemen and society is no longer structured along those lines. And hasn't been for thousands of years. Deal with it.

Ok, so what's wrong with a feminine approach to a masculine problem? Earlier you unambiguously said you didn't agree with that. Why? Why can't a male problem have a female answer (if such a problem merits such an answer? Or vice versa for that matter. Another thing I notice. Earlier you warned...

I've never heard them referred to as a 'nut ruck' before but I swear to God that's what I'm going to call them from now on. Brilliant.

That we can agree on. But what might help men is allowing men to speak up and not tell them to keep quiet and stop acting like a woman (sorry, 'feminine' was your word. But it adds up to the same and plays to that long-standing, accusatory, and negative, trope that expressing your feelings is...

I'm truly gobsmacked at that response. I've got nothing to say to that. Stunned and disappointed. I don't think anyone would suggest it as a blanket approach. It's merely a tool to have in one's armoury. It may help a few more people if they weren't dismissed as being 'feminine' for speaking...

Oh, and a quick addendum if I may. I work part time as a university lecturer in English and American literature. Yes, students are given warnings about content of some literature. But I have never seen a single person have a melt down or refuse to read something. They may not agree with it...

That's an interesting point. I'm going to have to walk a thin tight-rope on this one. In brief, I am in complete and utter agreement with Nigel's points above. But I am sure you can hear that 'however'. And it's this. It is nothing but a great and positive thing that young men feel free and...

In my early days as a writer I did a series of articles on famous hauntings of the county (the above mentioned girl of Blue Bell Hill was one of them). One of those was the ghost of Rochester Castle. I visited the castle and spoke to one of the curators about the haunting. He also expressed a...

Let me tell you the tale of a group of devil worshippers we encountered, late one night, many years back. There was this favourite stretch of woodland we had on the Downs. It's now a nature reserve, though it wasn't at the time. It's on a steep slope and half-way up is a clear plateau that juts...

At Ashford market there used to be gun dealer. But no idea if he still attends or if the market even survived covid. There also used to be gun dealer in Cranbrook. I believe there still is in West Malling.

Yes, a common feeling. I've wondered the same thing. Best I've come up with is that being outside, in whatever environment takes your fancy, takes you out of yourself. Instead of looking inward your senses are overwhelmed - with sights, sounds, smells, that take you out of yourself. And for that...

Yes, all very good. But I can't help feel that you could replace the word 'man' with 'woman' and it would mean just as much. So I don't really know where that all gets you in understanding what a man is. It's a bit like when you get those soundbites (usually coming out of politicians of a...

A phone to call for help. If mobile coverage is poor then a satellite phone? How old is he? 60s? 70s? Still young and fit? As suggested above - a simple first aid kit in a small ruck sack should do. Something to reduce swelling and inflammation if he gets a sprain (e.g. ibuprofen), and small...

I'm OK with a bit of competition, but I don't want competition that good if you don't mind! Lovely picture.